I hate fighting. It’s not in my nature to want to get into the mix with anyone, but some people are insistent on pushing buttons as much as possible.
Not cool. But it’s going to happen eventually.
So do you get those fists ready and prepare to slug it out, or do you try to take a higher road as we were all taught to do in the early years of our lives?
It’s easy to see the ills of fighting when a physical confrontation looms on the horizon, but when a war of words is the mode of combat instead — it’s a lot different.
We’ve all been given different brains and personalities to express ourselves in a dynamic multitude of ways. But with all that raw mental power and energy comes a responsibility as well — we must be careful when choosing our words. The more we push somebody’s buttons; the more we continue to approach people in ways that don’t take their thoughts and feelings into consideration, the more they’ll act on the defensive, ready to take offence at just about anything that exits your mouth!
I say if someone comes swinging, it’s not your job to calm them down, but it is your job to refuse to sink to their level and instead show them how wrong they are with your better behaviour.
So for sure keep up the good fight — by not fighting. If we could all just find a way to keep our heads cool in the face of conflict, I think we’d find ourselves spending more energy facing constructive options.
–Casey E. Palmer