Don’t Stop (A Year Since BiSC)

Last updated on March 23rd, 2021 at 11:00 pm

A New Blogger for a New Age—Father and Son With Matching Shirts!
The shirts say it all 😊

As a newly-minted father with one foot out from his previous life, nothing’s like it used to be. At my peak, I tweeted hundreds of times a day, partying near-daily with tweeps full of spontaneity, drama and hilarity. I felt connected to a thriving Toronto, present in a world where presence mattered, making sure I was seen to be heard, indiscriminate on where I spent my time in the Twitterverse. I’ve been scrawling away on how much the world’s changed, the things I miss and what I’d bring back if I had the power, but Ive been looking at it all wrong.

Yes, Toronto’s changed. Yes, social media’s not what it used to be, ever-changing to accommodate a cast of characters under continual flux. But none of that controls who I am, and that’s what I need to remember…

I’ve changed.

After months of near-misses, Peter DeWolf and I finally connected for #thepetecast’s 63rd episode, talking Toronto, blogging, fatherhood and more! I trolled his site the day after, surprised to find he’d done an episode with my good friend Simone 17 episodes prior on a few of the same things!

I was blown away by the interview—not expecting to hear about myself in the podcast, Simone had very flattering thing to say, warming my heart and inspiring reflection on what a certain 6-day trip to Vegas did for me last year!

Last Vegas, I Gave You My Heart…

Timehop—1 Year Ago—Bloggers in Sin City—Group Shot

A year ago, Bloggers in Sin City — an unconference bringing bloggers together as people, not just bringing them together to talk blogging — made me more than 60 new friends, complete with adventures, inside jokes, and the joy of people who don’t care about your blog traffic, clickthrough rates or blog marketing strategy.

A year ago, I had late-night conversations over pizza, sharing parts of myself that rarely surface in Toronto, feeling comfortable enough to know that I could be brutally honest and it wouldn’t come back to bite me later.

A year ago, I re-discovered it was possible to share your story without putting yourself in a box, choosing instead to create based on interest—not the best practices you’re told to follow!

A year ago, I not only became a better blogger… I became a better person.

Where I’m From

A New Blogger for a New Age — Casey Palmer the Performer
Casey singing at GovFest.

Let’s not kid ourselves by thinking we fit the Canadian stereotype—Toronto’s a cutthroat city! Our blogosphere ain’t gentle, with thousands trying to show value while suffering an inferiority complex from the New Yorks and LAs of the world; we’re a city of the world, but not a world-class city, with bloggers yearning to be taken seriously. For years I drank the Kool-Aid—party hard; be seen; get your name on everyone’s lips, making sure the world will never forget you.

But I was entirely missing the point.

I won’t re-hash my thoughts from my return to Toronto last May (there’s already a post for that) but they weren’t happy. I’d found wonderful people not trying to oust me from some imagined “spot” as a blogger. They were personal bloggers, blogging about life and everything in it—your opinion be damned.

In many ways, like my friend Simone often told me of her previous visits to BiSC—it was like finally finding my people.

Don’t Stop.

Casey Palmer: Mini-Portrait Sessions in Las Vegas during #BiSC // Erin Parker Photography

In the year since, I’ve changed—you might even read these words and think me a hypocrite with my sponsored posts, trips and a lifestyle that couldn’t be farther from the idea of just writing about things I’m passionate about.

But BiSC taught me that everyone walks their own path—there’s no shame in being who you are. We are not the food we eat, the clothes we wear, or the events we go to. BiSC taught me that life isn’t a race, and there’s nothing wrong with doing things at my own pace—that if you’ve got something amazing to share with the world, it’s worth taking your time, channelling your thoughts and creating the best damn piece of work you possibly can!

BiSC reminded me that it’s useless to compare myself to the next blogger—my real competition is myself. Making each blog post better than the last; honing my skills, continually evolving my ideas and projects; changing my paradigms to speak with the voice I always had, but never knew how to use. This last year’s been intense, and I know there’s more to come.

It’s taken me a year to learn this lesson, and I hope you’ve the opportunity to experience the same. While BiSC is no more, it made its way into my heart—and I hope all I learned will continue to do so for many years to come.

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By Casey E. Palmer

Husband. Father. Storyteller.

Calling the Great White North his home, Casey Palmer the Canadian Dad spend his free time in pursuit of the greatest content possible.

Thousand-word blog posts? Snapshots from life? Sketches and podcasts and more—he's more than just a dad blogger; he's working to change what's expected of the parenting creators of the world.

It's about so much more than just our kids.

When Casey's not creating, he's busy parenting, adventuring, trying to be a good husband and making the most of his life!

Casey lives in Toronto, Ontario.

8 replies on “Don’t Stop (A Year Since BiSC)”

Hey Case,

I love this. You have always been an amazing blogger. I find you to be… HUMAN! Not a robot. Someone who as always been authentic and caring and striving to improve.

We’ve all had a sip of the Kool-Aid but, thankfully there are many of us who also know drinking the Kool-Aid doesn’t make you important.

It’s okay to step to the Kool-Aid fountain just remember to step back into reality.

Love the post. Keep striving to improve and stay who you are! I like that guy.

Thanks, Christine 🙂

I’m glad I wasn’t blinded by the lights for too long — I know people who’ve stepped away from social media, feeling like they simply have nothing left. They gave everything they had to it, and now that they’re no longer a big Twitter name or their blog isn’t getting a bazillion hits a day, they have no idea of what they stand for.

I never want to be in those shoes. Social media is a tool… an outlet for getting ideas and thoughts out to the world in order to find kindred spirits. That’s something I’ve needed to remind myself at times when I felt like I wasn’t doing well enough or wondering why I wasn’t getting attention I felt I deserved.

There was some growing up to do, and what you’re reading here are the thoughts of a blogger who got his act together and can look at it all objectively, knowing he has only so much to give to the Internet without burning out.

So yeah — I think the best practices, the expectations, the Kool-Aid, they’re all there to learn from, but eventually we need to learn how to find a little bit of Internet real estate to call our own and just — like you said — learn how to be human. How to exist without becoming a pale automaton of yourself 🙂

Thanks for being along for the ride so far, CP — we have a ways to go yet, but we’ll get there 😀

Ha, thanks ‘cous — I’ve had a long time to get to a point where I’m happy with what I create — I still have plenty of half-finished ideas I’m getting out to the world, but I’m in no rush. I do what I can each day, and the more that happens because of it, the happier I am. Just gotta take those baby steps!

Hopefully I’ll continue to entertain — I have more to give in this soul of mine 🙂

I appreciate the comment!

Bravo, Casey! I totally agree. It’s much better to take your time and put your best foot forward than to rush things and produce crap. You are not WalMart!

Here’s to finding our people. Cheers!

Always appreciate you stopping by, Holli 🙂

I was just telling a friend that I want people to come across stuff I create years later and still think it’s cool. You can’t create something like that overnight, I think. Some of the greatest stuff I’ve seen lately took decades to put together!

We need to stop being so impatient and really put our all into our work!

Until the next time 😀

Thanks, Rob, I really appreciate it 🙂 I hope to keep providing value for anyone who comes across the page with stories, ideas and hopefully things they can take away from the experience.

Always a work in progress!

Thanks for being part of the conversation!

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