Last updated on April 14th, 2021 at 10:43 am
As the dad to two rapidly growing boys, I can tell you it doesn’t take long for your well-manicured home to look like every kid from the block’s been through it with toys everywhere the eye can see, dust congregating under the furniture, and nary a refuge left from the chaos with a toddler who will find ways to get into everything imaginable, no matter how many lessons you try to teach or stern warnings you give.
But it’s through all this chaos—perhaps as a necessary evil—that we see our son develop and understand his environment in ways he’d never interacted with it before. He wants to help sweep the floors. Make the bed. Beat the eggs. Wash the dishes. He’s beginning to realize that yes, there’s a time for play, but that ultimately he’ll be responsible for cleaning up after his own messes, and it’s amazing to see him progress from a baby who needs constant care to a little boy who can start pulling some of his weight around the house.
And it’s through this transformation that the Palmer family can start saying yes to the mess.
Perhaps we—as a society—have grown a little too particular about how we keep our homes and the people and things within them. Though I know that even Sarah and I have fundamental differences in how we keep up the home and the chores we consider priorities, I know that I’ve come to appreciate why striving to keep the home in order is a great mindset—even if our toddler doesn’t see it the same way.
How do you teach a 2-year old logic? Cause and effect? That there’s a place for everything and that everything goes in its place? With a little over 28 months under his belt, there’s little in our 1000-square foot bungalow that Little Man won’t get into, and the battle to teach boundaries and cleanliness is one slowly fought, some days feeling like the home will stay in a state of physical turmoil forevermore.
But there’s something to be said for routine and repeatable actions—as of late, after he’s played enough, he’s started cleaning up after himself. He knows which toys belong in which container, learning to put things away in the sets where they belong so everything will be there the next time he wants to play with them!
And it’s not limited to his playthings—maybe it’s through seeing both parents take active roles in domestic duties like scrubbing the floors after dinner or doing the laundry several times a week, but it’s clear he doesn’t want to be left out from the action, looking to help with household tasks whenever we’ll let him!
Which makes it amazing that Swiffer’s products are so easy to use—even for the toddler who may see dusting as a fun-filled activity, completely unaware that all the while we’re merely grooming him to become a well-adjusted adult who knows how to maintain a home when his turn comes.
But let’s get back to the point.
We say “Yes to the Mess” in Casa de Palmer because we—like 70% of parents*—feel that letting kids make a mess encourages their creativity. And like 97% of parents*, we think our kids will learn even more from cleaning up a mess. And though I’ll deny my son’s outlandish requests many a time because of the mess it’d end up making (not unlike the 68% of parents* who’d do the same), you’d better believe I’ve long since learned to keep a bevy of Swiffer products in places that’re easy to reach when the inevitable mayhem rears its ugly head!
Saying Yes to the Mess with Swiffer—How You Let Kids be Kids and Learn to Live With It.
As our kids grow up, I’m pretty sure saying Yes to the Mess will be a regular occurrence—from a three-boy family myself, I’m plenty experienced in the hijinks that my sons will get into, and you better believe I’m glad that I’m raising kids in an age where technology makes it possible to still keep a positive lifestyle despite the sheer volume of things on my plate. The Mess will find its way to your home one way or another—it’s best that you find ways to say yes to it now and learn to deal with it as a regular part of your life, not trap yourself in some idealized fantasy land where things stay tidy forever.
In any case, Swiffer’s got your back. Swiffer will be there to help in those moments when you look around, thinking there’s no possible way you can clean everything up. Swiffer will be there when you’re short on time with company coming over, trying hard to make it look like you don’t spend all your time living like a total slob, having gone three weeks already without even touching your laundry hamper. But most of all, Swiffer’s there to be as flexible as you require, handling the spills, the smears and the dust you’ve given not-so-temporary residence in those hard-to-reach places.
If you’ve yet to say Yes to the Mess, consider giving it a second thought, because at the very least, there’s a brand out there that can help you make the most of it.
May you become the master of your messes and not their slave!
Until the next, I remain —
*According to the Second Annual Swiffer Cleaning Index
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97 replies on “How Swiffer Helps with the Hot Mess of Parenting”
You’ve seen my house….you know I’ll never say yes to the mess! 🙂
*goes to Marie’s house*
*nudges the centrepiece a few centimetres*
*runs off laughing hysterically*
Of course we do, how boring would childhood be if kids had to sit in a chair, and never mess anything up! 5 minutes after we get home, looks like a toy bomb hit the place. 😉
I embrace it because the kids are only young once….enjoy them instead of being obsessed with cleaning! 🙂
My hubby does some gardening and he is always bringing in dirty footprints and I say Yes to the Mess with my Wetjet Swiffer.
I am a neat freak! lol I do embrace a mess when the kids are having fun. Otherwise its clean free. lol
I clean as I go about my business,I put things back where I picked them up.
My little dog leaves lots of muddy paw prints, I could use these Swiffer cleaners to clean up the mess.
I say yes to the mess because that is what having fun is all about. The mess can always be cleaned up, we just make a point of cleaning up one mess before moving onto the next.
I just go with it. With 5 kids, there are always toys and crayons and crumbs on the floor and it no longer bothers me. I clean up, but I don’t stress over it because as soon as I clean someone is going to throw their cookie crumbs on the floor.
I lived quite regimented life as I served in the military for 25 years, now that I am retired I am more relaxed and know I can get it later, I enjoy being in the moment watching my grandkids having so much fun!
I say yes to the mess as family time is more important. Plenty of time to clean later.
I get yelled at if I track mud in, could use Swiffer’s help
Let’s just face it, if you have kids then you also have a mess. Kids need to let their imagination run free and you can’t be ‘tidy’ whilst doing that. Let them have fun whilst they are still young, life gets much more serious for them later.
I would say yes to the mess because its my place and ill clean later if i want to! lol
I embrace it because the kids are only small for a short time and I think it’s best to spend the time with them awake and clean a lot when they sleep lol
I say yes to the mess when the grandkids are over!
i embrace it with music! I love how clean and fresh everything smells after
How do I embarrass the mess is I start in one room and just go from one room to the next until it is totally finished.
well I have no small kids so my biggest mess would be the clutter on my dining room table I can never keep it clean, when I clean I have planned days for certain rooms this way its not to overwhelming all at once
I say yes to the mess when I see toddler’s fingerprints on my TV screen,
windows and walls or chocolate cookie crumbs and food remnants on my floors.
They remind me of the fabulous time
I am having with my precious babies.
I say “yes to the mess” by just turning my favourite tunes on, grabbing some bins to tidy up then swiffer away! The swiffer makes cleaning up so much easier!
loud music , huge coffee , windows open and go to it ! make the mess go away lol
Embracing a mess is tough for me, but with three little girls, twins aged 5 and a 4 year old, it’s a part of life! I would say I embrace the mess by hiding it- closets, the basement and the garage are pretty bad! That’s about it though, the rest of the house is kept pretty tidy, mostly because the chaos has to end somewhere for me, and keeping things clean is it!
I normally like to keep my home neat and tidy, but when our grandson comes to visit I say yes to the mess and then clean it up after he leaves!
I am the same shoes as u. My toddler is just learning to pick up his toys. He does love to use our swifter. .. to the point where he broke it. Now to use own swifter we have to get on our knees. Lol time for a new one
I say Yes to the Mess because who has time to waste – I’d rather spend the precious after work time I have with my kiddoes having fun than running behind them fretting about the messes. We love our Sweep & Vac, especially since Baby M is terrified of the big vacuum but will actually chase the Sweep & Vac and try to use it when I’m done with it – we use it several times a day.
Your kid’s freaked out by the vacuum, too??? Little Man can’t stand it — and I can’t stand picking things up by hand when the Dyson would be a welcome approach instead ????
Good luck, amiga!
I’m pretty sure it has to do with the pitch, she had the exact same reaction to the hand mixer recently, and they both have a higher pitched whine to them. The Swiffer is a lower tone and she doesn’t mind it at all. And my hair dryer is in between and she cranks if I run it, but not the same sheer panic. Julia hated the vacuum until she was probably 7, I guess the ears mature at some point since it hardly bothers her now.
Yup—I have this conversation with my coworker sometimes, that the human ear loses its frequency range over time, so tones on the extreme ends become far less audible, and I suppose, less irritating as we age.
Makes me wonder what my favourite songs would sound like were I decades younger ????
We own a dog who loves mud and don’t get stressed out over some dirt on the floor.
We have two dogs and three cats . Need a fast and efficient way to clean up after them.
I embrace the mess because life is too short to sweat the small stuff.
I always embrace the mess because most of the time is mess left by my girls. I consider it a little present from them at their young age hahaha. I turn on the music and giver. I actually enjoy to clean…yes I said it
I do not like a mess at all. BUT there are times when you just have to let the kids make a mess and clean it up later
I sy yes to the mess , with 6 kids and a 2 year old granddaughter , my house is always in some kinda mess , but i do try to keep it clean about 10 times a day lol
We have a 2 and a half year old….messes are a daily occurrence in our lives and you just got to accept them!
I say yes to the mess. I would rather play with my children and let them enjoy themselves than worry about the mess.
We always say yes to the mess with crafts and cooking. The mess is half the fun!
Great post! You know what’s messier than a toddler? A puppy! Somehow now matter what I say, he doesn’t put his toys away! 🙂
LOL, thanks Angelique — I’ll admit, I’m not entirely convinced, but you would know far better than I on this, so I’m willing to go with it ????
I spent the better part of the day cleaning up after the hurricane the 2 1/2-year old had unleashed in the house, but hey. Little ones.
Dirty stuff was outside. But just mess inside was okay, they had to help tidy up, though.
I love it whe my daughter has her friends over for movie or game nights. I don`t even mind the mess or the prep. of the food. I love having them around even at 13. i know it won`t be for much longer. BOOOHOOO.
I #SayYesToTheMess by doing little bits when I have free time, and not stressing about them. Life is too short.
I say yes to the mess as family time is more important.
My motto is say yes to them mess. I enjoy spending time with my family when they are around.
I don’t exactly embrace them, as I am disabled and climb up or reach down to the floor.
Not much of a mess yes person here – gets me a little anxious to pull out the cleaning gear.
I’m a neat and organized freak. I’m always going around cleaning after people. I think if I don’t I will be cleaning for days then
I say Yes to the Mess by letting the kids explore and play. Letting them do things ‘hands on’ makes it all that more creative and educational for them.
When my kids were young, I embraced the mess. A messy house usually meant a happy house. Sofa cushions as forts, toys across the floor, crayons across the table. Yep. But it doesn’t last forever was my motto.
I tackle one room at a time until everything is done.
Im too much of a neat freak
Messes happen! It’s okay. I just take care of it right away with cleaners and water.
I say yes to the mess , we have kids,step grandkids… and pets not to mention my husband..lots of mess but it is all part of life and memories! Right now time to live, have fun and make memories..one day the house will be quiet and lots of time to worry about the mess…
I embrace it because I have better things to do, itll all wait!
I am almost OCD but i do clean all day long 🙁 ughh!
With 3 young kids I have to say yes to the mess!! Some days no matter how hard I try to keep ahead it is a losing battle 🙁
I had 4 kids and a large dog so keeping up was sometimes a challenge, then I decided to follow a motto from my Mom, I posted a sign “If you are coming to see us come in, if you are coming to see the house, call for an appointment!”
I say yes to the mess, because Swiffers helps me clean it up!
I don’t embrace a mess. I am a neat freak.
I say yes to the mess. When the kids are here I let them mess it up as much as they want. We just all clean it up together at the end of the day.
I have 4 children and a 120lb dog.. I fought the mess for the first two children, and after that I accept my home as being “live in” lol. All visitors are required to give me 48 hours notice, and you’d never know I have one child in the house.. the rest of the time my home looks like a daycare. I accept that it won’t be this way forever.
Sometimes it drives me crazy, but then I stop and chill. It’s much easier to do small amounts then to have one clean up day. I find I get more done and less stress.
Sometimes but my better half usually says yes to the mess. What would I do without him lol.
I say yes to the mess when the kids are over. Life is too short to stress about the mess!
We make cleaning fun by putting on music while cleaning which includes some wiggles and vocals. haha Cleaning can be fun.
Somebody else in the house takes care of these things.
I do it, because I cannot stand a mess,
We say yes to the mess because everyone helps clean up when the fun is over so it’s a quick, easy job to clean up.
ITS HARD FOR ME TO SAY YES TO THE MESS AS I’M OCD
I say yes to the mess because we can have a perfectly clean house when the kids are grown, but they only have one childhood- let them enjoy it, be creative, and grow into their unique selves.
I just laugh at messes and then clean up.
I have to admit that saying “yes to the mess” was a harder transition for me than anticipated however I’ve grown to love and embrace it. With one little guy under 2 and another making his big debut any day now I’ve learned not to sweat the mess. It’s worth all the giggles and smiles that come from interacting and developing. Thank you for a wonderful giveaway and review! Good luck all!
LOL, Jodi — thanks for entering! Let me tell you — this two under 3 business is no joke! I’ll be thinking of you and your fam ????
Yes to a mess is very hard for me.
I say yes to the mess , after the dogs come in with muddy paws and track it all through , and when my grand kids come over and spill stuff lol , i love my Grand kids and fur babies , no matter what 🙂
I embraces messes happen . Just clean then up as they happen . Make it a team effort to get it clean
With 4 kids, 3 cats, a dog and 2 bunnies there are alot of messes everyday! but i usually just clean them up one at a time and most times get the kids to help out too.
I have no choice in the say yes to the mess debate because with 2 large dogs shedding their body all over the house, whether I say yes or no the mess is right there in plain sight….tumbleweed madness!!
I will say yes to the mess buy not sweating the mess – just grab a swiffer product and its easy peasy!
For us a messy house is a happy house, clean and make a new mess.
I always use swiffer products so it’s easy to say yes to the mess. easy cleanup!
Running a family daycare from my house, you know I can say yes to the mess.
This is how we #sayyestothemess at our house https://youtu.be/xTlWeKJOito
With four kids, a pug who sheds like crazy, two long-haired cats and a hubby who often forgets to leave his boots at the door, saying yes to the mess is sort of inevitable in my life!
Having the neighborhood girls come over for some arts & craft is always fun. We play a game out of it
I don’t mind them making messes just as long as we do clean up at the end.
Life can get messy so I try not to stress too much. I currently use a mop and bucket. I would LOVE a Swiffer WetJet to make clean up a snap. Thanks for the chance.
I have a toddler and a baby. I tidy up every day, but within minutes the house is in disarray again. So my house may not be the neatest, but at least my girls are having fun.
Just take it day-by-day.
I say Yes to this mess everyday. I will clean when all the children are in bed. Life would be boring without the mess
If I had a Swiffer I would always say yes to a mess.
I always say yes to messes because it means your house is lived in!
I embrace it by knowing that my life is more important than a little mess. =)
I embrace messes by using them as a way to teach the kids how to clean.
we allow shoes in the house and heck we have cats, kitty litter and we live to have fun .. we can alwats clean up