Last Updated: November 12, 2020
I wish I could show people what it’s like in my head.
Though I don’t always produce by putting content out as often as my peers who have, let’s say, more time on their hands, the intent’s always there. The #BloggerLife’s constantly competing with the rest of my life, trying to find the time to thrive where, truthfully, not much exists. It’s news to no one that my time’s well-invested in parenting my son and supporting my wife — and that’s already outside of the full-time job that usually has me running around when I’d prefer to do otherwise. I’ve learned there’re things that people won’t let you say “no” to, wanting your skills and abilities for their purposes rather than see you strive for anything of your own. While my goals and objectives become clearer the more I grind, I feel like I haven’t done enough to push myself forward so I can meet them.
Something’s gotta change.
I look around and see opportunity — I feel like no one’s really doing things the way I do them, a young Dad blogger who doesn’t post recipes, likes drinking beer, and is equally likely to vacuum the house to Drake’s “Worst Behavior” as I am to sing songs to my son, calming him during his temper tantrums. The voice of the Dad Blogger is rarely heard, and that of a Dad emerging from lifestyle blogging even rarer, so I feel I can do so much more with the stories I share, showing that being a Dad’s so much more than what society’s fed us so far.
Which is why it bothers me so much when I can’t find the time to develop stellar content — there’re so few people filling the void of the much-needed conversation around fatherhood; so how can I help if I fail to add my voice???
So I decided that I’d had enough. I’d had enough of putting things to the back burner, waiting for things to get convenient enough to deliver great pieces of writing. Enough giving myself excuses to placate myself when I feel frustrated, convincing myself that I’m no lesser a blogger when I put out a lone blog post a week. Enough wanting to become a better blogger, but not doing enough to become one, thinking that somehow I’ll make it somewhere down the road and not just do the best I can right now.
It’s time for a push. It’s time for me to burst beyond my limits and challenge myself to become better than I am. It might mean better time management and stronger focus to get everything where I want it — but why sell myself short? Why not give my best performance possible and really show myself what I’m capable of instead of settling? With all the drivel readily available online, the time is perfect to provide content we can all stand behind, so really — what’s stopping me???
You’ll Only Stay Stuck at Your Level if You Let Yourself. Time to Kick it Up a Notch!
We should all give ourselves a push. We’re too easily convinced that we don’t have the time, money or resources to chase our dreams, told by influential people in our lives that we’re mad for chasing after the unconventional.
Sure, we don’t have the time or energy to do everything, but at the very least we need to try. Take it from an idea guy — it’s fun to dream up interesting ways to solve the real-world problems surrounding us, but if you’re not determined to push forward and make them something real, dreams are all they’ll remain, with you no farther along in life than you might’ve been had you made something of it. If something excites you, chase after it, fighting tooth and nail to put more of what you enjoy in your life and not just exist like many of our parents did. If there’s a gap between where you are and where you want to be, don’t let that stop you — if you take small steps every day to reach your destination, you’d be amazed at how much progress you can make in a short amount of time!
One of my elementary school teachers stood by the acronym YARFY — You Are Responsible For Yourself; I can’t expect anyone else to help me reach the destiny I so richly crave… it’s time to stamp my path, proving that the route to personal success doesn’t have to stick to ones that’re so… traditional.
It’s time for a push — and I don’t know whether it’ll be in the right direction — but we’ll never know what we’re capable of if we don’t move out of our comfort zones.
If you’re unhappy with who you are, I encourage you to make a small push in the direction you want to go. Many small changes can yield massive impacts down the road… let’s all give ourselves the lives we deserve — I mean, you only get one. May as well make it count!
Until the next,