Last updated on February 4th, 2024 at 08:52 pm
The only ones in control of ourselves are ourselves. The actions we take and our reactions are all linked to how we wish to be connected to the world and the value we wish to impart to everything around us.
Sometimes, we react far too quickly. We all have buttons that people (sometimes unintentionally) push repeatedly, whether we know what they are or not. But it’s how we choose to react that makes all the difference. Some of us are hot-tempered. Some of us have the patience of ancient masters of Zen and chi. But it can make the difference between an argument and a conversation.
Have you ever said something stupid and wish that you could take it back? Sometimes, we open our mouths and get ourselves into unnecessary trouble. I don’t have enough fingers to count the number of times I wish I could go back in time by 30 seconds and tell myself to shut up because I don’t want the consequences of the weight my words hold. But some of us are worse repeat offenders than others. We all know them—people who never seem to find the right thing to say, forever making any social interaction, whether individually or in a group, horribly awkward and not giving the incentive to want to have them happen again anytime soon.
How do we solve the horrors that come when we speak without thinking? When we act without common sense?
We stop, think, and strive to understand one another to avoid situations that prepare us for fights that aren’t even there.
We can’t change anything that’s outside of our control—there will be things that piss us off. These things’ll make our list of pet peeves as life goes on. The world will never cease challenging and frustrating us in ways we can’t even begin to imagine. But by using the tools that are given to us, such as common sense and adaptability, and further developing ones that we could work on, such as our patience and restraint, we can change enough of us as a whole—through changing ourselves—to change the way we all interact with each other.