The 2K11 24/7 CCCXIV: Getting Older, Not Worse

Deny it all you want, but you’re getting older! The face creams, surgery and wardrobe makeovers will only do so much — at the end of the day, time is on a level higher than any of us and will loose its effects on us all.

That’s a reality that I recently had to face, anyway — and it all started with a video game.

The 2K11 24/7 CCCXIII: I Don’t Know Where I’m Supposed to Be in Life, but I Know it’s Not HERE

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Sometimes life leaves me wondering whether it’s already too late. Have I wandered so far down the rabbit hole that I’ve somehow lost who I am? Have I made myself numb from walking around in a daze for now, trying so hard to be different that I’ve wound up like everybody else?
Ever get that feeling that you’re not unite who you’re supposed to be in life? That there’s a destination, and while you don’t know what it is or what it looks like, something in your gut tells you that you’re not there yet?
Sure you have. Very few of us are completely content with our lives — most of us feel that there’s something in our lives that we could change in order to be happier.
Something doesn’t seem right with this picture, though. What’s on the other side of the fence? What’s in that territory that we might catch the odd glimpse of now and again?
While we might not know, it doesn’t make it impossible to find out!

The 2K11 24/7 CCCXII: Clutter — The Final Frontier

You can’t live in a sty forever.

With more than 80% of the year done and over with, most of the stuff that kept me busy earlier in the year went right with it. The days aren’t as busy, yet in ways, they feel just as hectic.
The likely culprit? My environment.

The 2K11 24/7 CCCXI: I MEANT to.

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There are certain words and phrases that should be omitted from the English language. All the swear words and degrading terms we use for people daily are on that list. A lot of the idiotic slang we’ve come up with? Yeah, that too.

Another one that we always use that rarely see as offensive are three magical words:
“I meant to.”

The 2K11 24/7 CCCX : Sacrifice

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Sooner or later, you’re going to need to sacrifice something for the sake of others. It might be your time, the opportunity to do something you’ve always wanted to do, or maybe something even nearer and dearer to your heart.
Here I sit a little tired and behind by a couple of blog posts. I’m happy with how the year’s turned out so far. I’ve discovered that more people read my daily ramblings than I’d thought, which leaves me thinking about next year.
A lot.
Devoting time daily to writing hasn’t let much room for me to pursue other things that’re often demanded of the typical blogger — constantly finding new blogs to comment on in order to generate new traffic; constantly working at defining an editorial calendar to keep on top of my game; or trying to develop an impressive marketing strategy to get my ideas out to the world — mostly, all I’ve found time to do is write. Even now, the realization has dawned upon me that if I really want to take a vacation this coming weekend, I’d better get my content sorted out pronto.
But there is a point to all of this: How do you keep a blog up and give it your all when your life asks so much of you?

The 2K11 24/7 CCCIX: Destroying Disappointment

Being disappointed in ourselves is an utter waste of time. We get discouraged when things don’t go quite right, while the very act of doing so only reduces the chances of us being successful past that point! It’s a vicious circle that only feeds into our own negativity and worsens who we are.
The next time you’re about to mercilessly beat yourself up over a failure, here’re some questions you need to ask yourself first:
  • can I salvage this failure?
  • can I turn this failure into something else that’s just as good?
  • how bad is this failure really?
  • is there a lesson that I can learn from this experience?
Unfortunate as it is, the lesson many of us take from society is that if we’re not #1, then we’ve lost entirely. You’re either a winner or a loser — nothing else is acceptable save being on top.
Can anyone else see how ridiculous that is? You can’t possibly be the best at everything! I’m not about to stop you from trying, but we are not all created equally. For the most part, we share the same DNA — but for all other sakes and purposes, we are highly individual.
So how then do we expect the best expression of this individuality to be the attempt to be the best possible replica of someone else? How is being the next Steve Jobs, Michael Jordan, Björk, Penelope Cruz or Gandhi going to help you be a better you?
We need to do better at celebrating the things we can do and move from this belief that we should feel lesser because someone else is better at embracing their God-given gifts. If we can do that, then we’ll all be just fine.
But the world is far bigger than one person alone.

The 2K11 24/7 CCCVIII: Crabs in a Bucket

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The world is tearing itself apart at the seams. Greece is trying to figure how it will survive economically; people are waiting to see whether the world will still exist after 2012, and the Occupy movement is causing more of a stir and attention on economic matters than most people are used to.
On one side of the Occupy movement, you have the protesters aiming to bridge the gap between rich and poor, since:

  • the economy as we once knew it is in shambles
  • there are numerous tax loopholes that benefit the rich, allowing them to pay taxes at a lower percentage than many middle-class families
  • corporations are not generally held too accountable for their actions (see bailouts, lack of litigation of some pretty heinous corporate crimes)
  • corporations often have too much influence in electoral processes, due to the sheer size of their contributions

But their critics question whether the methods used by the Occupy movement are the right way to go about raising these points at all, since:

  • they’re seen as anti-capitalist (I’m not entirely convinced that this is a bad thing, looking at where capitalism has gotten us in recent years)
  • there’ve been a number of Occupy-related arrests in movements across the globe
  • they’re seen as more of a burden on the locations they’re in than they are peaceful protests, as the infrastructures aren’t meant to maintain such a large tent-based population in such concentrated numbers for so long
  • finally, they question whether the protests are at all productive, or whether they’re just a bunch of people doing nothing more than giving the news something to write about
Both sides of the debate have their merit, but there’s one little thing that I think everyone’s overlooking.
While it’s very true that much of the world suffers a huge divide between the rich and the poor, some of the real problems come from within those class segments — rich fighting the rich, poor fighting the poor, and all the middle classers trying to get rich so they don’t wind up poor!
It’s like being a bunch of crabs trapped in a bucket.

The 2K11 24/7 CCCVII: A Slave to Addiction

“Why everything that’s supposed to be bad make me feel so good?
Everything they told me not to is exactly what I would
Man I tried to stop man I tried the best I could
But (You make me smile)”
–Kanye West, “Addiction”
I’d say I have a bit of an obsessive personality at times — it operates in short spurts; I latch on to something for a little bit, thinking that it’s the best thing ever, but my short attention span will have me move on to the next thing as soon as I get bored of it. It’s probably part of the reason why I have bits and pieces of so many different kinds of projects scattered all over my office. I get so addicted to one thing at a time that I neglect all the other things that I could — or should — be looking after!
If there’s one thing that can vastly change who you are, how you act and think, and the things that drive you day in and day out, it’s an addiction. We throw the word “addiction” around so casually nowadays that it leaves one wondering if anyone knows what it really means. To quote from the Merriam-Webster dictionary, an addict is someone who will”devote or surrender to something habitually or obsessively”.If we break that down further to observe the definitions for obsessions and habits…

ob·ses·sion

noun äb-ˈse-shən, əb- 
Definition of OBSESSION
1: a persistent disturbing preoccupation with an often unreasonable idea or feeling; broadly : compelling motivation <an obsession with profits>

1hab·it

noun ˈha-bət  
Definition of HABIT
7a : a behavior pattern acquired by frequent repetition or physiologic exposure that shows itself in regularity or increased facility of performance 
  7b : an acquired mode of behavior that has become nearly or completely involuntary <got up early from force of habit> 
  7c : addiction <a drug habit>

So in looking at these, what can we learn about an addiction?

  • One is ruled by an addiction
  • One does not act when they are addicted, instead they carry out actions as governed by their addiction

How do you battle an addiction When you simply can’t help yourself — when your actions feel less and less like they’re your own and more like an unseen force is guiding you to do things — even though you might get less and less enjoyment from them as time passes — what can you do to regain control of your life?

The 2K11 24/7 CCCVI: The Wallet Part II — The Evil That Men Do

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So following from yesterday’s post, this past weekend, I lost my wallet. I didn’t know where it was. I panicked, I looked all over, and in the end, someone had found it and called me at my work number listed on my business cards in the wallet. So all’s well that ends well! Except…

The 2K11 24/7 CCCV: The Wallet Part I — Do the Right Thing

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I’m pretty sure that I’d benefit from a society that didn’t need wallets. For me, it’s an unnatural extension of my body that carries so many of the things I need to function “normally” in this society — so unnatural to me that I misplace it far too often.

Yesterday morning I was primed to leave for work on time — I’d packed everything I’d need for the day, made sure that all my household tasks had been completed — but then I went looking for that little leather folio that partly defines who I am…
…and it was nowhere to be found.