31 Things I Know Now That I’m 31 — #3: It’s Okay to Outgrow Things!

Life changes only help cement things we know already. At our 2011 wedding, I knew there were plenty in attendance who I wasn’t seeing again anytime soon, with me moving from Mississauga to eastern Toronto, and frankly, changing my priorities as I made room for new things in my life. Same goes for fatherhood — things were already changing with marriage, social media and an ever-shifting job situation being major influences, but my son changed the game entirely, putting my focus in a whole new direction and giving me less time to dabble in things I used to find important.

Along with growing up, I was outgrowing much of what defined me for so long, but that’s part of life — it was time to come to peace with it.

All Right, STOP. Collaborate and LISTEN.

If you read my last post you’ll know that I’m at a crossroads with the blog, feeling like I’m going in circles when I try to produce amazing content. It’s not for a lack of ideas — my desk is like a mad scientist’s secret lab, with me tinkering about to perfectly combine these notes, scribbles and sketches into things the world’s never seen. No, rather one can have too many ideas, and what happens when you try to tackle them all at once and not having some patience and conquering it all naturally with a well-thought plan.

These are the musings of a man crawling from under the weight of a million ideas, trying to find the one that’ll buy him the time to handle all the others.

DO ALL THE THINGS: The 2013 100 Wrap-Up 51-60: Tradition, Tailoring and Tilling My Land

What’s struck me so far as I write these year-end wrap-ups is that I’m dealing with the list of a maniac. At 100 items, that’s 3.65 days to get each item done, or 8,760 hours.

But if I sleep 6 hours a night, that’s suddenly 6,570 hours.

And with a 40-hour work week (not including my 3 weeks of vacation), that brings us down to 4,610.

Put in a couple of hours per day to eat, shower and other essentials and you’re suddenly down to 3,880 hours, or a mere 161$latex \frac{2}{3}$ days worth of time (or perhaps, a mere 8 hours per weekday, with the hope that the weekends don’t find themselves suddenly overloaded) to do 100 things. And that’s, of course, on top of going out with friends, being a good family man, and perhaps finding time to do things that were never on the list in the first place.

Unless you’ve somehow bought yourself the luxury of unlimited time, a list of 100 goals is best achieved when attainable. You can’t be everywhere at once or do everything at once — sometimes we need humility and a reminder that there’s simply only one of us!

It’s what we do with that one that makes all the difference.

So let’s chalk this up to a learning experience. Let’s figure out what really matters, what’d be nice to do, and what’d be inane to expect with a wife and kid at home, needing me to play my role as a father.

Once more unto the breach!

The 2K11 24/7 CCCXII: Clutter — The Final Frontier

You can’t live in a sty forever.

With more than 80% of the year done and over with, most of the stuff that kept me busy earlier in the year went right with it. The days aren’t as busy, yet in ways, they feel just as hectic.
The likely culprit? My environment.