It’s Okay to Outgrow Things!

Last updated on April 2nd, 2021 at 07:25 pm

Life changes only help cement things we know already. At our 2011 wedding, I knew there were plenty in attendance who I wasn’t seeing again anytime soon, with me moving from Mississauga to eastern Toronto, and frankly, changing my priorities as I made room for new things in my life. Same goes for fatherhood—things were already changing with marriage, social media and an ever-shifting job situation being major influences, but my son changed the game entirely, putting my focus in a whole new direction and giving me less time to dabble in things I used to find important.

Along with growing up, I was outgrowing much of what defined me for so long, but that’s part of life—it was time to come to peace with it.

All Right, STOP. Collaborate and LISTEN.

Last updated on March 17th, 2021 at 10:57 pm

If you read my last post you’ll know that I’m at a crossroads with the blog, feeling like I’m going in circles when I try to produce amazing content. It’s not for a lack of ideas—my desk is like a mad scientist’s secret lab, with me tinkering about to perfectly combine these notes, scribbles and sketches into things the world’s never seen. No, rather one can have too many ideas, and what happens when you try to tackle them all at once and not having some patience and conquering it all naturally with a well-thought plan.

These are the musings of a man crawling from under the weight of a million ideas, trying to find the one that’ll buy him the time to handle all the others.

Tradition, Tailoring and Tilling My Land

Last updated on April 5th, 2021 at 12:44 am

What’s struck me so far as I write these year-end wrap-ups is that I’m dealing with the list of a maniac. At 100 items, that’s 3.65 days to get each item done, or 8,760 hours.

But if I sleep 6 hours a night, that’s suddenly 6,570 hours.

And with a 40-hour work week (not including my 3 weeks of vacation), that brings us down to 4,610.

Put in a couple of hours per day to eat, shower and other essentials and you’re suddenly down to 3,880 hours, or a mere 161\frac{2}{3} days worth of time (or perhaps, a mere 8 hours per weekday, with the hope that the weekends don’t find themselves suddenly overloaded) to do 100 things. And that’s, of course, on top of going out with friends, being a good family man, and perhaps finding time to do things that were never on the list in the first place.

Unless you’ve somehow bought yourself the luxury of unlimited time, a list of 100 goals is best achieved when attainable. You can’t be everywhere at once or do everything at once—sometimes we need humility and a reminder that there’s simply only one of us!

It’s what we do with that one that makes all the difference.

So let’s chalk this up to a learning experience. Let’s figure out what really matters, what’d be nice to do, and what’d be inane to expect with a wife and kid at home, needing me to play my role as a father.

Once more unto the breach!

Clutter: The Final Frontier

Last updated on February 21st, 2021 at 11:30 pm

A roadmap diagram of all the things you need to consider and questions you need to ask yourself when trying to declutter.

You can’t live in a sty forever.

With more than 80% of the year done and over with, most of the stuff that kept me busy earlier in the year went right with it. The days aren’t as busy, yet in ways, they feel just as hectic.

The likely culprit? My environment.

This isn’t the first time I’m making this observation, but it is the first time I’ve had a solid plan to do anything about it!

One man’s trash is another man’s treasure.

My office is filled with books, magazine clippings and other things that I’ve read and loved, or still intend to read. But the more you accumulate, the less you actually know what any of the mess is! I tried to take a few sheets and plot them out in mind maps and checklists, but it was too little progress and taking too long.

It would take months, but a Plan B would eventually come to the surface.

One reason why we fail to start is that we’re intimidated by how immense the projects of our dreams are. To start a side business of our own. Or to travel the world. To build something spectacular with our very own hands.

The solution? Finding the balance between our visionary schemes and all the itty-bitty details that can turn them into reality!

So I took another look at all those magazine clippings of mine and started sorting them out in piles according to their purpose. I started looking at my art supplies, wondering which of them I’d actually use again. In short, I took another look at my possessions. and wondered which of them were actually worth possessing.

Unless you’ve got some rare stuff in your home that you care to part with, all that clutter you have isn’t worth as much as you think it is. And the sad thing is that we’ve convinced ourselves that it’s too hard to get rid of it all—we’d drop it off at a donation centre, but we don’t have a car to get it there. We’d put it up online on craigslist or freecycle, but it’s too much effort.

I thought so too until I looked into Clothesline, the Canadian Diabetes Association home pickup service for electronics! (Sometimes it pays to read the ads on the subway!)

It might sound like they only accept clothes, but they do far more than that! All those books I purged from my library? Yup, they’ll take those. Old MP3 players and electronics that we don’t use anymore? They’ll take those too! Pretty much any household item that you no longer have a need for, they’ll find someone who does.

More people need to take advantage of programs like this wherever they’re available—we’ve gotten used to living in small spaces; why make them feel any smaller?

For more information, drop the Canadian Diabetes Association’s Clothesline program a line!

As for me, I have a lot of random stuff to pack away!

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