The Life and Times of Casey Palmer β€” The State of the #BloggerLife, February 2019: Do Less Better.

One thing I’ve beenΒ particularly horrible at is learning to say “no”.

The Long Road to Becoming a Better Blogger

They say hindsight’s 20/20, and if my old report cards are an indication of anything, the people around me could see I was sowing the seeds to my destructionΒ long before I could.

The Life and Times of Casey Palmer β€” The State of the #BloggerLife, February 2019 β€” Do Less Better. β€” The Pile of Work

We all know there’re only twenty-four hours in a day, but I’ve been working to optimise everyΒ minute of my days since I was twelve. I could sleep when I was deadβ€”I had too many ideas and aΒ plethora of interests; it was all about the short-term pain for the long-term gain, and I was confident that I’d reach the day where I wouldn’t need to work so hard anymore.

But it’s been more than twenty years of sleepless nights and wishful thinking since, and I’m still not quite so sure when I’ll figure it all out.

I mean, the question is thisβ€”how do youΒ succeed with your content when you can’t make it yourΒ everything?

Why Father’s Day Isn’t Mother’s Day II β€” An Exercise in Fatherhood by Casey E. Palmer

“Happy Father’s Day to the single mothers out there doing both jobs.”

No.

Why Father's Day Isn't Mother's Day II β€” An Exercise in Fatherhood by Casey E. Palmer β€” Reading to My Eldest

Oh, I get it. And I agree that we should celebrate single Moms for everything they do to raise their kidsβ€”it ain’t easy; I have a hard enough time withΒ two of us in the house. But let’s not diminish the efforts of the Dads who workΒ hardΒ to beΒ worthy of their children’s love by treating Father’s Day like Mother’s Day II.

Real talkβ€”we haven’t embraced the idea that we’ve got single Dads at home managing everything despite that it’s a growing demographic. I don’t see anyone wishing them a Happy Mother’s Day becauseΒ they’re doing both jobs. And it doesn’t even reflect the modern familyΒ anywayβ€”are you saying that same-sex couples need to decide what roles they’ll play? Why can’t you have two Moms or two Dads instead of trying to force them into a model that’s not as universal as it once was?

I’m down with celebrating single Moms and everything they do. But I’m going to do it on Mother’s Day. You know? The holiday we celebrated just over a month ago? The second-largest holiday for card giving in the entireΒ year? I mean, it’sΒ already hard enough for Dad to be taken seriously in a world convinced we’re all sub-parβ€”let’s not continue pushing that narrative just because it’s easier to believe that “all men ain’t shit”.

The 2017 100 Wrap-Up β€” 31 Successes.

Several weeks, a few dozen photos and four thousand words later, we’ve finally made itβ€”the Casey Palmer, Canadian Dad 2017 wrap-up, filled with stories aplenty of 365 days spent in my not-so-orthodox life.

After wrapping the year up on a quiet note (because two sick children under five will do that to you), I still felt it necessary to do this. These year-to-year changeovers offer a lot of perspective for meβ€”with so much happening all the time, I often forget what I had for breakfast, so I write everything down. And if the height of the pile on my desk is any sign, 2017 was quite the year. But it’s also the time where I’m the most transparent, looking back objectively at everything I’ve done and celebrating successes, owning up to failures, hoping all the while that I’m somehow growing from the process.

But yeahβ€”let’s do this as we did in 2016: look at the year in excruciating detail, figuring out what’s worth taking with me into 2018 versus what doesn’t feel part of my world anymore.

Ladies and gentlemen, let me presentβ€”the 31 things I did well in 2017! Let’s get it!

Scotiabank True Patriot Love Symposium

War isn’t something I’m familiar with. I have a veteran cousin and friends who’ve served, but all I know about service comes from the media. From whatever I hear on the radio. I can’t even begin to appreciate combat and the issues that come with it!

But sadly… far too many can.

We Stand on Guard for Thee β€” Scotiabank and the True Patriot Love Symposium β€” Husseini K. Manji, MD
Photo courtesy of the True Patriot Love Foundation

We have over 100,000 military personnel in Canada, 2.4 million in the States, and countless family, friends and others supporting them. That’s countless people working through the repercussions of horrific experiences, surrounded by a world that doesn’t know or appreciate the difficulties Veterans face. It can be isolatingβ€”military life values pride, strength and being tougher than anyone else around you, so when invisible wounds like post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and substance abuse wreak havoc on military families, how do you learn to feel okay going in the opposite direction?

It’s questions like this where symposiums like True Patriot Love find their strength. In an environment where a stiff upper lip’s the norm, it made talking about the struggles often hidden behind closed doors acceptable with the hopes that one day we’ll reach the point where these issues become part of everyday military conversation.

Let me tell you a bit about it!

Sherkston Shores | How to Make Your Vacay Matter More!

Let me tell you a little bit about Sherkston Shores.

As a family influencer, the issue I have with aΒ number of my pitches is that they requireΒ time away from my family! It sounds nice inΒ theory to explore different cities and celebrate in festivals across the globe, but taking care of two boys under four as a solo parentΒ ain’t easy, and it’s a fate I wouldn’t wish onΒ any parentβ€”least of all myΒ wife!

So it was great when Port Colborne’s Sherkston Shores invited theΒ entire family for a weekend stay at their Lake Erie resort, letting our boys experience something different from what they’re used to in downtown Toronto!

Sherkston Shores Day 1 β€” A Time to Learn

Make Vacay Matter More with Stays at Sherkston Shores! β€” The Sherkston Shores Sign

While theΒ commuteΒ to Sherkston wasn’t the greatest (rookie mistake leaving Toronto at 4Β PM on a Friday), the accommodations were impressive! The three-bedroom Premium Rental Cottage provedΒ plenty for a young family of four!Β It had a living roomΒ flush with furniture and a cable TV withΒ far more channels than we had to offer at home; a spacious deck where the boys could run around once they felt too penned up; and of course, high-speed Wi-Fi for someone like me who never wants to beΒ too far from the interwebs! It didn’t hurt that the team at Sherkston put a nice care package together of fruit, snacks, and local wine to welcome us to our vacation!