The 2K11 24/7 CCLXXXVIII: A Mention of Reinvention

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Do you ever wake up feeling like you’re living someone else’s life? Like you’re just going through the motions day by day and you’re not really connecting with everything going on around you? That’s definitely me some mornings — the ones where I wake up a little unsure of what the point of the day will be. Or the times where I wonder how I wound up with things in my schedule that I don’t really feel like doing.

We’re quick to label it depression or to tell people that they should suck it up and that “it’s just how life is” — but something doesn’t ring true there. While it’s true that we’ve become adept at making mountainous problems out of molehills, it doesn’t automatically discount our feelings of unease toward our lives. Taking examples from my life, when people meet me for the first time and discover that I’m a public servant, they’re floored. The idea of a creative, energetic youth and working in an environment that’s not typically seen to be so usually never matches up in their minds.

Though I tend to laugh it off and simply go with the flow, maybe there’re elements of truth there. Perhaps there’s something to be said about our performance, thinking and behaviour when we’re not in situations that complement who we are. It’s not only limited to our work lives — it can be applied to just about any part of your life!

The 2K11 24/7 CCLXXXVII: A Thankless People

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Some people are just plain rude. But collectively? It’s even worse! Gone are the days where holding doors, offering seats and saying please and thank you come naturally to people. Instead, we’re self-absorbed, spiteful and just constantly downtrodden about the state of the world around us.

This past Thanksgiving our pastor gave a sermon on thankfulness (to fit the occasion), but made a point to comment on how thankless we seem to be as a population. He gave stories about people who had travelled here to Toronto from overseas and how shocked they were at how few people would say “please” and “thank you” in everyday conversations. He shared his own observations on his own behaviour and that of others in stores, where good manners have become more and more of a rarity with the passing of time.

Is this not a problem? Have we become a thankless people? Have we become so ambivalent about others that we no longer care whether they feel valued or care to show value?

The 2K11 24/7 CCLXXXVI: The Best Tool is the One You Have With You

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The 80s was a time where anything was possible. Computers were still a huge unknown to the world — much less the Internet which was something only used in its infancy by an elite few — imagination was still key. Phones were bigger, fashion was insane, and many of the problems that seem to plague our world today were more commonly seen in action films than they were in the news.

But when there was a problem, there’s one man who we knew would be able to find a solution no matter what.

His name? MacGyver.

The 2K11 24/7 CCLXXXV: Now or Later

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Someone once asked me which of the two were more important — living for the moment or striving for goals. The argument that she gave me was that it was a desire for a carefree existence, not concerning oneself with the lessons that may have been learned from the past nor planning for what may become of the future, versus the passion to achieve a goal and all the planning and actions that are needed to make it happen.But I don’t think it’s nearly that simple.

The 2K11 24/7 CCLXXXIV: Success Part Three — What’s Stopping You?

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Most of the stuff we do in life can be split into two categories — the things we have to do and the things we want to do. For some reason, though, we seem to think that they’re vastly different from one another. We seem to think that if we do more of one, the other must suffer — that we must focus on one path or the other and that balance cannot be achieved.
This simply will not do.
What’s stopping you from doing what you want to do? Why aren’t you trying to chase your dreams and get everything you want off of this rock? Nothing. Absolutely nothing. It might seem like hot air, but I assure you that the only thing holding you back is yourself.

The 2K11 24/7 CCLXXXII: Success Part One — Being Yourself

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It’s easy to lose yourself in your travels. You are but one person in a world where only the strong survive. There’s power in numbers, and being a loner will only keep you on the fringes for as long as you live. Solitude will never let you climb the social ladder; get to be as rich, famous or important as you think you deserve to be; nor will it help you achieve all of those dreams you’ve held for so long. We know what it takes to succeed in this world — we see it in the people we place on pedestals: the ruthlessness; the decisiveness without worry of consequences; the willingness to do whatever it takes to make yourself a success.

But does that make it right to become like these people in order to achieve your goals?

The 2K11 24/7 CCLXXXI: Stopping Problems Before They Start

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Do you know why you’re stressed out? A lot of us would say it’s because we have too much on our plates. But how did all that stuff that you have to do get there in the first place? Did someone put it all there when we weren’t looking? Is it all stuff that we’re destined to overcome to achieve our destinies? Or are we simply the ones at fault for making our lives harder than they need to be?
Once upon a time, we had all the time in the day to explore and enjoy the world — it was called childhood. Now, we find that there isn’t enough time for everything — we’ve looked at different methods of prioritizing things to make sure we get things done; we’ve looked at how we can go about cutting things out of our lives to try and restore a sense of balance. But those are just says to handle the symptoms of the real problems that’re afoot — our tendency to bite off more than we can chew. We use up a ton of our time to get more money, more gadgets and more things that do more, all at the cost of having less free time.
Some people say that they thrive and succeed from being busy. The adrenaline from accomplishments that take every waking hour to achieve. The feeling of ousting opponents knowing that you’ve used every iota of effort to gain greatness.
But is this the only way?

The 2K11 24/7 CCLXXVIII: Fighting the Problem, not the Symptoms

Sometimes when you’re stressed, you won’t really recognize that it’s there. There are times where it’ll be more obvious — you might eat less, feel down or lose sleep over things. You might react to things emotionally — get angrier, sadder or just plain crazier depending on what’s going on.

But it’s the slow burn of stress that’s the worst — the times where it creeps up on you gradually, changing you bit by bit. You start to enjoy your favourite things a little less. You start to be a little less happy, a little less energetic, a little less focused. It’s like something eating away at you inside, making you far less of the person that you’re supposed to be.

The 2K11 24/7 CCLXXVII: Knowing a Little About a Lot is STILL a Lot to Know!

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As we get older, I think it becomes easier to accept that we can’t be good at everything.
In school, you often have your know-it-alls and the competitive need to know more than everyone else around you. Knowledge is power — this is true.
But you can’t know everything.

The 2K11 24/7 CCLXXVI: Growing Up is Hard to Do

Sometimes the opportunities to reflect on yourself and the path you’ve chosen in life are given to you on a silver platter. We can spend all our time trying to figure out where we changed and why we are the people we are today, but sometimes the answer will find you, even when you didn’t realize you were looking for it.

You rarely figure out just how much you’ve grown up until someone points out for you.

I ran into a former manager of mine from a couple of years back, and we chatted for a bit about the place where we’d worked, how life has changed, what the future’s looking like — all the usual stuff.
But it was the fact that she was surprised at how far I’ve come in the organization since I was under her wing that made me think. It was a conversation that gave me some insight on how much we can change in such a short amount of time.