Caveat Lender!

Last updated on April 5th, 2021 at 08:24 pm

I’ve often spoken about the perils of having too many material possessions and how too often we can let ourselves be ruled by stuff. It sucks. It keeps a hold on you and fills you with unnecessary worry and anxiety.

  • “Oh, but what’ll happen to my car?”
  • “I lost my phone—what am I gonna do?!”
  • “ARGH! This is why I never lend things to people—look at the spine of this book!”

But I think we’ve got to a point in the year where we can have a good conversation without being too preachy, right?

Redirecting Your Energies

Last updated on April 5th, 2021 at 03:49 am

“Don’t get mad, get even.”

Revenge. It’s a dirty word looked down upon by our society—we look to turn the other cheek, let bygones be bygones and to give people the benefit of the doubt. An eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind and many moralistic lessons have been given to let us know that those who claim revenge feel nothing after they’ve done so.

But this isn’t a movie. It’s not TV, literature or the comics. It’s real life. And things work a little differently here.

Planning to Fail

Last updated on March 30th, 2021 at 11:22 pm

Those who fail to plan plan to fail. How true it is. Planning isn’t something that comes naturally to me at all. I rather do things flying by the seat of my pants, forever improvising and adjusting my path to achieve success. It’s worked pretty well so far—I’m not incapable of thinking ahead, I just don’t like to do it. But you sure do learn a lot through the planning that you failed to do.

The 2K11 24/7 has been quite the journey so far—in a little over a week from now, we’ll be looking at the 300th post of the year (and what a post it’ll be)! But because I decided to do daily posts this year, because I chose to delve deeper into the world of blogging than I ever had in the past, there’s a number of lessons I’ve learned through the entire experience…

Calling it Quits

Last updated on April 5th, 2021 at 08:40 am

Calling it quits is easy. Why commit to something you really don’t want to do? Does it benefit you? Is there anything you’ll gain from being stuck in a situation you don’t want to be in?

That’s a question I face more often than I’d like to admit.

If you didn’t know, I’ve been attending a sewing class on Tuesdays—I figured that having more domestic skills to bring to the table would be useful now that I’m a married man, but starting with sewing may not have been my best decision.

In the first 4 weeks of the 8-week program, we learned a lot of the basics—how to thread a sewing machine, the different kinds of stitches available to us, how to sew in a zipper and so on.

The second half has been a little harder to digest. We’re in the middle of working on a 4-week project, and regardless of the gender of anyone in the class, it’s making a skirt.

Since I won’t seriously expect Sarah to wear anything I sew as a beginner effort in her regular wardrobe, I’m probably not as excited, motivated or driven as I could be to finish the project.

Realistically, I likely won’t.

But something in me refuses to quit. Somewhere inside of me, while I know that doing this right now might not see any immediate gains, but practice makes perfect. We never know the roads upon which we’ll travel in life, and the more skills you acquire, the better equipped you’ll be for whatever life throws at you!

I might not always be on time, and I might not even care that much for the project anymore, but I’ll see it through.

We’ve become so obsessed with finishing the race that we give up pre-emptively before we’ve given all that we can. If you need to get a report done by end-of-day Monday and you don’t, will you die? No. Your boss may be displeased. You may lose your job if it’s important enough—but you will live to fight another day.

If you don’t manage to get all your errands done in a weekend where you’re feeling particularly tired and worn out, will it be there end of the world? NO. People might be mad at you and you might need to play around with your schedule to get things done, but you will live to fight another day.

So never stop trying. Never stop being conscious of your schedule and only fitting in what’s actually feasible. But there’s no real shame in failure— you can’t possibly win them all!

No matter what you do, the Earth will still be revolving when you wake up. Beat yourself up all you want. Be angry all you want. But if you’ve learned anything today, I hope it’s this:

You’ll only be making things worse for yourself far more than you’re making anything better for anyone else.

Food for thought.

–Casey E. Palmer

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Less is More.

Last updated on April 5th, 2021 at 08:35 pm

After watching a TED Talk from Graham Hill espousing that <=>—that is, less is more, it really hit home. Not simply because it was something I was already trying to do as much as possible with my stuff. Not simply because he’s a pretty compelling speaker. The thing that really hit home for me is that he showed it could be done. It’s very much possible to achieve happiness, if not become happier if we have less stuff in our lives.

He rolled up so much of what’s been in my mind into one chat:

  • carefully considering the things we want to buy before we actually buy them;
  • making better life choices that don’t entrap us or lessen our quality of life, but instead, liberate us to live the lives we actually want to live; and
  • being able to unlock the secret to happiness and identify when our behaviours actually lead us in the opposite direction (and this happens way too often)

We overcomplicate our lives by convincing ourselves that everything isn’t simply part of one greater whole.