Good help is hard to find. It’s a fact of life, and the sooner you face up to it and stop trying so hard to: collaborate; beg for assistance; and get everyone wanting to work with you on your great idea, the happier you’ll be.
Well — that’s what it seems like at times, anyway.
We live in a world full of individuals. Damn near 7 billion people and every one of them unique. We all want different things from life, we all see different methods to accomplish things — finding two people who share a viewpoint is WAY harder than finding someone willing to dismiss an idea as useless.
So you rely on yourself, your skills and your abilities to achieve the things that currently exist only inside your head.
It’s tiring. It’s a pain in the butt. You don’t have time for it — sometimes you don’t even want to do it. This is all normal and to be expected if you’re the only one doing something — but if you don’t do it, who will? Will they do it as well as you envision it? Will it happen according to the way you’ve planned it despite so much being outside of your control?
Even if you’re not running a project, we all face these kinds of complications at times. Where we don’t trust others to have the ability to do something the right way. And more often than not, we’re proven right. But the reality is, you only have so much time and energy to reach for your dreams. (Well, unless people wait with bated breath for every move you make, but I don’t think Steve Jobs and Mark Zuckerberg are readers of my blog — yet.)
So what do you do? How do you get things done when the only thing you’re actually in control of is yourself?
Lead by example.
People only take other people seriously when it’s something they can see with their own eyes. Touch to verify that it exists. Having an idea is all fine and dandy, but the only person who can see an idea is the person who dreams it up! Until you actually start to show some tangible product, it’s really hard for people to bridge the gap from imaginary to actual, and who can blame them? It might seem good in your head, but upon execution, it could just be one giant flop.
So stop dilly-dallying. Work on those ideas. Start creating so that people can see that you’re not just a bag of hot air. And that’s when the magical thing tends to happen — the help you were looking for all along no longer needs to be sought out, because now they’re looking for you. Right when you least expect it.
Murphy’s Law at its best, guys. Harness it while the harnessing’s good.
–Casey E. Palmer