Today I present Niya’s final post of her five-day series of achieving
without assistants! I hope you’ve found them just as useful as I have!
–Casey E. Palmer
How is this different than marketing? How is this different from step
3, about mobilizing your network? Is this last piece tacked on because
she promised to write five posts for Casey, and only had enough “real”
material for four? All reasonable, possible questions.
This post is just as real as the others. I promised five posts, and
didn’t intend for any of them to be fluffy. Hopefully you haven’t
found them that way. If you have, please say so. I’m more than happy
to clarify and concretize concepts for you. Some of this has been high
level, and a bit abstract. That works for some people, but doesn’t
work for everyone. I get that. If it’s working for you – say so. It’s
never too late to make amendments.
This last piece, about how to live that high-performance,
high-achieving, world-changing life you know you could have, and doing
so without an assistant is about inspiration. This is different from
mobilizing your network in a number of ways. First, this goes so much
further than your network. This is about all those lovely strangers,
or pseudo-strangers that you run into everyday. It’s about that part
of the population whose names and faces you recognize, but that you
didn’t connect with in stage 3 of this process. Why those people?
Valid question. Those people are just friends you haven’t met yet.
They’re all connected to people and resources that may be vital to
bringing your project to blissful fruition.
The thing is, talking to strangers is much harder than talking to
people you already know. You actually have to work to forget
connections with them, and to get them to see how you’re changing a
consensual reality for the better. It’s not easy, and you’re going to
get a lot of interesting responses. Remember to be entertained by
them. Talking to strangers about the awesome stuff you’re doing isn’t
impossible though. Here’s what you’re going to really need to do, to
mobilize their support:
Be authentic. People can tell when you’re faking it. It’s not
attractive. Don’t do it, especially when you’re talking about
something you’re actually passionate about. Be enthusiastic, be real.
People appreciate it, and you will inspire them. Even if they don’t
immediately buy in, they will remember you, and your true, passionate
commitment to your project.
Provide clear examples of success. Everyone loves a story where the
good guys come out on top. You will meet all kinds of successes – so
why not share them with these wonderfully perfect strangers? It’s all
good news, and everyone can use some. Success inspires people to take
on challenges and create their own achievements. It’s one of those fun
ripple effect things. Plus, if you point of successes, you are more
likely to be recognized for them – so hop to it!
Why should they care? Sometimes people have a hard time buying into
something, and being inspired to commit to things if they can’t see
themselves in the situation. It never hurts to point out how your
project is applicable to them, and how it really is changing the
world. There is something about putting yourself in someone else’s
shoes (especially if they’re really gorgeous!) that makes it easier to
come away from a conversation truly inspired to make real change.
Inspiring, not selling. Remember, it’s not a pitch. It’s not
standardized. Don’t script and parrot it out. That isn’t inspiring.
Also, don’t push hard enough to break. You are building new
connections, so be gentle. You’re asking for consideration, not
commitment. Being a part of your awesome project is an option you’re
extending to people, because it will enrich their lives, the way it’s
made a difference in yours – but if they aren’t ready, that’s cool.
You’re making them aware of an option.
So go out there, and inspire perfect strangers with your high
performance, high achieving life. You can do this without a personal
assistant. In fact, if you’re been playing along, maybe you’re already
made your life more workable. These fabulous new friends, that were
perfectly charming strangers not too long ago, will become part of
that network. Keep mobilizing them, and they will make it possible for
you to do great things.
Feel free to hit me up with questions or concerns, either here in the
comment, or on twitter. I’m @destiniya and I’m always around.