The Power of “We”

Finding Better Ways to Get to Our Goals

Last updated on May 18th, 2021 at 12:32 pm

The team of Maasai Wandering porters who helped us reach the summit of Mount Kilimanjaro and back!
We wouldn’t have reached the summit of Mt. Kilimanjaro and back without our team of porters!

I find life funny—many of us have very similar goals to one another, but the world is a finite place. There’s only so much time, so much money—in short, there are not enough resources out there for everyone to have as much as they’d like. The way we’re going now, some people will come out empty-handed!

So why aren’t we pooling our resources and working toward collective goals?

Lesson 1: The Needs of the Many

“The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few.”

–Captain Spock, Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan, 1982

One of the huge flaws with our current society is its strong focus on the individual. We’re told when we’re young that we can be the best. We can be on top. We can be better, faster and stronger than anyone else around us. And while I’m sure we can, the better question is whether we need to be the best, or can we be just as amazing as a handful of people who we work with?

Lesson 2: “Help” is Not a Taboo Word

Somehow, many of us have convinced ourselves that asking for help is somehow a sign of weakness.

Which is probably one of the most ignorant things I’ve ever heard.

No one person can possibly be the best at everything. My ability to run fast makes me well-suited for sports like dodgeball and ultimate frisbee, but utterly hopeless at volleyball. I can figure out the most fiendishly complex puzzle games you offer me, but will be the first person to be picked off in a first-person shooter. We are all good at different things.

So—why the heck wouldn’t we ask people for help in areas where we know we’re not that good? Much like I alluded to in my last post, there’s definitely a fear element involved that both holds us back from asking for help and makes us reticent to provide it. And because of this, we all wind up clinging to isolated paths where the odds are against us and we can only succeed so much.

If you don’t believe me, it’s purely logical at the basic level—2 people can do in 12 hour what 1 can do in a day. 4 in 6 what 2 can in 12 and so on. By pooling like resources, not only do we improve our chances of reaching our goals, but we also afford ourselves a quicker turnaround if/when we fail, since it won’t take as long to carry out the changes necessary to make something successful.

If you have a group of people genuinely dedicated to helping each other, it’s a win-win situation for everyone involved!


Lesson 3: Good Help is SO Hard to Find

And therein the problem lies. Theoretically, this is all good and fine, but finding people who commonly believe in the same goal and are willing to put time aside to work at achieving it is not easy. Everyone has different priorities. Everyone has different levels of effort that they can contribute. Finding the right people to align yourself with isn’t easy but here’re some places to start your hunt:

  • Twitter: People are constantly talking about their passions on Twitter! Find out how to do an advanced Twitter search and look up keywords that’re specific to your field. Chances are that you’ll find people in your neck of the woods trying to do some of the same things that you are!
  • Networking Events: Even when they’re focused around certain areas of interest, it’s rare for people to have one interest alone. Find a solid networking event and discuss your ideas until you’re blue in the face. But remember—I said discuss; a discussion requires active contribution and listening in order to work. If you’re nothing more than a loudspeaker, people will eventually tune you out.
  • Facebook Pages and Other Forums: Finally, there are Facebook Pages and Internet forums on pretty much any topic inconceivable. Find some that align to what you want to do and make some connections!

The world’s a very big place, but we’re a very big population with some very big ideas. There’s room enough for all of us, but only if we choose to work together and stop trying to carve out small pieces for each and every one of us. It isn’t sustainable. If isn’t smart. It doesn’t even align with our best interests as a society!

The power of “we” will always be greater than the Power of “Me”. We need to spend less time being ourselves for the sake of ourselves and more to keep our communities strong. No one is an island—so why do we try so hard to convince ourselves otherwise?

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[This post was written as part of Blog Action Day 2012, focused on the topic of “The Power of We”]

By Casey E. Palmer

Husband. Father. Storyteller.

Calling the Great White North his home, Casey Palmer the Canadian Dad spend his free time in pursuit of the greatest content possible.

Thousand-word blog posts? Snapshots from life? Sketches and podcasts and more—he's more than just a dad blogger; he's working to change what's expected of the parenting creators of the world.

It's about so much more than just our kids.

When Casey's not creating, he's busy parenting, adventuring, trying to be a good husband and making the most of his life!

Casey lives in Toronto, Ontario.

6 replies on “The Power of “We””

Great post Casey! It’s sad but, I’ve been afraid to ask for help.
I’m always concerned that someone might say “No”, laugh or consider me weak. It has defined how I handle everything in my life.
However, I am always available to lend a hand. I always go above and beyond when it comes to helping others. I don’t judge others – I just think it’s always good form to help those around you. Strange right?
I’m ready and available for the “We Project”. How can I help?

Thanks, Christine, for the honest and near-immediate comment 😀 I’m privy as well to feeling that I need to everything myself — I’ve become so used to it that I pour out massive amounts of energy into the things I do to make sure that they’ll be at the level of quality that I’m looking for!

But I know that it doesn’t always need to be this way. What I likely need to do more of is sitting down with my friends and seeing what we all bring to the table. While I could accurately tell you what my strengths are, I’ve never been able to really tell where to go to find people who can help me with the areas in which I’m weak. That’s likely a first step I’d need to solve before trying to figure out WHAT my friends can do for me 🙂

With that said, I know you and I both know this, but if there’s anything you ever need, you know EXACTLY where to find me!

Thanks again for stopping by!

This post made me think of that African proverb – ‘If you want to go fast…go alone. If you want to go far…go together.’

Very apt, Mary, and so true — I remember back when I had my site, I could never get it started up or looking QUITE the way I wanted it to look because I kept trying to do EVERYTHING by myself. The coding. The comics. The blogs. EVERYTHING.

Eventually I found out about WordPress. Eventually I figured out that I could liaise with other people who had similar interests. I found ways to make it easier and take less of the burden off of my shoulders alone.

It was a tough lesson, but it needed to be learned.

I couldn’t see myself ever going back to trying to do it all alone. Seriously.

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